Today, Doug would be 68 years old. But he isn't. He remains 66, and he'll always remain 66.
Because he's dead.
Today has hit me hard: two of his birthdays have now gone by since he died. Two birthdays on which I couldn't take him somewhere fancy, or cook him a special meal, or buy him three birthday cards, or wake him with a cup of coffee and a kiss.
I'm trying SO HARD. And most days, I manage to be productive(ish), and laugh a few times, and have conversations that don't revolve around the death of my person. But on days like today, I wonder if those days are possible only because those are days when I don't let myself think about what my life really is: empty, and lonely, and pointless. Those days are simply the days when I'm successful at lying to myself and convincing myself that I'm okay. Days like today are my actual reality: crying all day, wishing only to be with the only man who ever loved me; the only man I've ever loved.
A friend of ours posted this on Doug's Facebook timeline today. The text is from a Facebook post that Doug made right after we returned from our weddingmoon in Hawaii.
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